If you have one minute, you owe it to yourself to watch the video in this post. You’ll have a great laugh, and your kids will too. Hopefully, you will also take away a major parenting lesson.
Watch the video and then read the rest of this post.
Do you think Charlie, the baby, meant to hurt his brother? It’s clear he thought they were playing and he went too far. I believe that the majority of the time, when our kids make mistakes, they don’t mean to be mean either. How we react though, can take an innocent mistake and cause them shame and turn an innocent mistake into a painful moment.
Tread gently on your children’s feelings. As W.B. Yeats once said, “Tread softly, for you tread on my dreams.” When you make a mistake and are harsh with your kids, be gentle with yourself, set the intention to be gentler next time and less quick to react, and then let the moment go. The gentler we all are on each other, the easier and more successful parenting is. Peace truly does start at home.
Hi Jacqueline
I was shown this video a few months ago and honestly I didn’t really get why so people wanted to watch it but I like how you have used it here to make a point. I would also like to throw in do you think the older brother may have been trying to hurt his baby brother by sticking his finger down his little brothers throat and just trying to be plain annoying?
Belinda
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Thanks Jacqueline for that video. Our kids are grown now maybe grand kids coming sometime but I wish I would have information like this when raising our kids. I would have taken a lot more time before reacting to any situation.
Thanks again,
Michael
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Jacqueline: It sure isn’t easy being a parent! It takes a lot of dedication, time, money, and energy.
I agree that by setting a positive proper example for our children, they will learn how to deal with conflict they way you show them to. I frequently told our children, “Actions speak louder than words; if you can’t find anything nice to say, keep it to yourself” and many other common sayings. The one thing I really learned is the pay way more attention to what you do than what you say! Don’t we all?
Thanks for the great post!
Deborah
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Jacqueline. How did someone get my home videos? Ok, not my kids but it was like watching my two kids. I do agree with your post that we as parents need to be careful that our reaction does not blow a minor incident into a major tragedy. I often have to catch myself because my first reaction is probably more than a situation requires. I have certainly improved on this as time goes on. Thanks for the post!
Scott Pollov
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The video was precious. Wasn’t it amazing how quickly Charlie’s brother got over the whole incident. Fortunately he wasn’t traumatized.
I have to agree with you though that it would be better if we could be gentler with our kids. Most of the time, they just make mistakes and who of us doesn’t do that? Thanks for sharing.
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Wow, great post. Kids play can often go further than intended, and is so interesting how they simply shrug it off. Why can’t we do the same, and allow our responses to come from a lighter space. Agree with you..gently does it….also Love that Y B Yeats poem,
Thanks for the post,
Johneal
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We have 6 kids ranging from 6 to 18. Over the years, we’ve learned that our kids are really great kids. They require discipline from us and yes, many times, they don’t really mean to do things they shouldn’t. It’s certainly helped us to remember that and to be patient with them we they make mistakes. Great message!
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Wouldn’t it be great if parents would be prepared from Conception to be aware of this.
My boys are grown up. I usually gave them the benefit of the doubt, trying to find an alternative explanation to their behaviour.
I am glad you are raising great awareness with these post.
Have a great week.
Yorinda
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Jacqueline,
Loved the video. My kids are grown and I’m hoping for grandchildren somewhere down the line; however, I’ve often wished that I could wind the clock back and be a much more gentle, understanding parent.
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Jacqueline,
Loved the video. My kids are grown and I’m hoping for grandchildren somewhere down the line; however, I’ve often wished that I could wind the clock back and be a much more gentle, understanding parent. At this point (with adult children), I’m giving them as much love as they can handle.
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I love the Yeats quote. So true.
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They DO do the darndest things. The stories I could tell! But, they would be about me and the darndest things I did. Like playing Superman out a 2 story window, for real! Thanks for the post. PS, I did write about that one
Just had too!
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