I wrote a few weeks ago about how common it is for kids to get the message that they are bad (see post here). If you are guilty of this, it isn’t because that is what you want your kids to think, it’s just that it is easy to get stuck focusing on all the [...]
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Beyond Praise: Building Character, Encouraging Positive Behavior and Increasing Resiliency
Because too much praise has a tendency to promote a focus on outward rewards, praise can undermine these very traits that we want to encourage. Often times, to do the right thing involves being able to behave based on our own internal beliefs and strength. Clearly the rampant problem with bullying and bystanders speaks to the fact that many kids are not developing their internal guidance system.
Praise is the New Criticism; How Hyper Parenting is Backfiring
A young college student said this powerful statement, "Praise is the new criticism," on a CBC special last night on Hyper Parenting. He went on to say that behind every praise is the expectation that the behavior will be repeated. I’ve taught for years that we have to be very careful with praise. This young [...]
Irreconcilable Differences, Part Two!
I received a lot of great feedback, both online and off, from my blog post about my husband and I’s irreconcilable differences. My own thinking on the subject deepened. It’s been exciting to see the great benefits for my marriage and family from what I’ve learned. First though, I’d like to clarify that our marriage [...]
Living with Irreconcilable Differences: The Choice to Minimize or Maximize the Impact on Your Kids?
I read the other day that Larry King and his wife were filing for divorce, citing "Irreconcilable Differences." That was yet another reminder to me to write this post about living with irreconcilable differences . I realize that some couples exist who have melded enough to not feel that they have any irreconcilable differences. Gay [...]
Confessions of a (Sometimes) Workaholic and Perfectionistic Mom
If you caught my interview on The Parenting Summit, or you’ve read my blog for awhile, you know I am a recovering perfectionist. I love helping other parents reduce their perfectionism because this has been such a healing and joyful journey for me. I get to share with you the many techniques that I’ve learned [...]
What Do Your Children Really Need, and Want, Even if They Won’t Admit it?
Your kids need a powerful connection with you and/or another loving adult. Powerful connections to other kids are nice, but other kids cannot give your child the unconditional love and mature guidance that they need. In that sense, love is almost all our children need , but that love has to get through. Too many [...]
Great Parenting Course by Connected Parenting founder Jennifer Kolari
If you are like me, you probably sometimes feel that you’d like to be better connected to your kids. From working with developmental psychologist Gordon Neufeld, I’m very clear on the power of attachment to minimize discipline issues and get our children to automatically follow our lead and adopt similar values. However sometimes the nuts [...]
Highlights from The Parenting Summit
The free replays came down this morning, Saturday at 9 am PST. Now those who purchased The Audio Owner’s Manual to Raising Great Kids are starting to download their favorite audios and discover great tips from the experts they missed. I’m looking forward to hearing more from you as you apply the tips you have [...]
The Parenting Summit Interviews are Live!
Imagine getting the help you need to deal with your worries, fears and realities with raising your children. Parenting did not come easily for me at all, which is why I became a parenting educator so that I could learn more and find better approaches than I already knew. I created The Parenting Summit, in [...]
